What does his message mean? Does He Want Sex or a Relationship?
Sometimes you just don’t know. What does his message actually mean?
Tone, sarcasm, body language, it is all not sent with a digital text message, chat message or e-mail. That often makes it difficult to estimate what he wants to say. In 2019 it is sometimes more useful to be able to decipher written conversation on your phone than to be able to have a nice real-life conversation, in which you are assertive and charming, while at the same time trying to flirt with him.
With those interview fragments invading on an irregular basis, you sometimes mean something different than you initially thought. The big difference is that men mainly use written messages to exchange information, while women use them more to build or strengthen a bond.
We have listed a few hints to help you understand his chat behavior. Is he looking for a relationship with you, which naturally includes sex, or is it just about getting you into bed and isn’t he really interested in you? One reassurance: men seem difficult to gauge, but they are actually not that complicated at all. So don’t look too much behind his typed words.
If he sends a message after work
When he’s done working and sends you a message, he probably means well. Men like to do things one after the other instead of at the same time. So first work, then contact you. That doesn’t mean he didn’t think about you during the day.
“How was your day?” Is one of the most chivalrous things he can ask you in 2019, so be flattered.Because a man who only wants sex is really not interested in what your day was like, in your annoying return trip home or in that nice conversation with your colleague.
Judgment: he wants a relationship.
If he sends you a message in the morning
If you’re in his head early in the morning and he takes the trouble to send you something, that’s a good sign. You are probably the first thing he thinks of and he wants as much contact as possible with you in one day.
Sometimes it is a little tiring to tell him what you are eating, whether you have already fed your cat and whether you have dreamed about him, but at least his intentions are good. Although he may occasionally give you some peace.
Judgment: he wants a relationship.
If he only sends you messages in the evening
He will not contact you until late in the evening when all his work, food and dishes are over and he can only think of one thing. Sex yes. And he associates that with you, so he sends you a message.
They look like innocent messages in which he starts with a brief description of his day. But if those messages only arrive after ten o’clock every night, he is probably on a raid.
Judgment: he wants sex.
If he only sends you messages at strange times
If he sends the messages later, it may be that you are not his first victim that evening.
Or what do you think of the man who is always away during the weekends and during the evenings? Chances are that you are not the only one he deals with.
Judgment: he wants sex.
If he calls you “beauty.”
Your intuition is most likely to be successful, he only wants one thing from you.
Judgment: he wants sex.
If he calls you ‘sweetheart’
He means well and wants to give you a nickname. But unfortunately he is not that creative or too lazy to come up with something new and personal.
Judgment: he wants a relationship.
If he answers with one word
You write a long essay in which you review all kinds of considerations, why you have specifically reserved that restaurant for the two of you. He then answers with ‘cool’. Then he has probably received too much information from you and he does not know exactly what he should respond to. He decides to keep it simple and to respond with one word. That doesn’t mean he’s not interested in you. You just made it a bit too difficult for him. Be a little more direct and shorter in your messages next time, that makes communication a lot easier for him.
Verdict: he wants a relationship or sex, you have to invent that during dinner.
If he asks you to drink coffee
Coffee is harmless, tea too. He wants to drink that with you, in the morning or perhaps in the afternoon. Then it’s probably someone who really wants to talk to you, is respectful and wants to get to know you better.
Judgment: he wants a relationship.
If he asks you to watch a movie at his home
Think carefully. When did you last watch a movie, alone, at home, with someone of the opposite sex? Maybe at the time, you watched Kruimeltje with your father?
Okay, maybe you turn on the movie, but by the time the movie reaches its peak, he probably hopes you do the same.
Judgment: he wants sex.
If he asks you to send him a photo 😉
He asks you to send him a photo with a winking smiley after it? Or another provocative emoji? Then it is clear, he asks you to send a nude photo.
Or he asks you what you are wearing and if you want to take a picture of it. Then he is really not interested in whether you are dressed according to the latest fashion trends. You know better, right ?!
If you like it, play along. Send him a photo where you subtly show a piece of your bra or panties and give him a peek. But if you are not in for it, be careful.
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