Do Guys Come Back After The Slow Fade
Not only is the “ghosting” dating trend awful and immoral, but so are many others. A second one has appeared. Ready?
The name for this is “slow-fading.”
In contrast to “ghosting,” in which a person you like simply disappears, “slow-fading” is the act of wanting to end a relationship gradually rather than abruptly.
They would rather have you end things than them. They’d rather not have to take the blame.
Who, really, does? However, the slow-fader believes it is preferable to make it appear as though the relationship is falling to pieces due to the actions of both partners.
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Why Do Guys Pull The Slow Fade?
Many women feel abandoned when their male partners suddenly cut off contact or gradually decrease their communication after dating for a while.
Of course, he could just give her a call and break it to her in person (using these exact words or something else entirely) “There is no way that I want to interact with you again. While I enjoyed our time together, I’m just not interested in continuing our relationship because I know it won’t end well.”
Instead of making that call, many men simply cut off contact with the girl.
Realizing that a guy isn’t interested can bring up a lot of negative emotions at once, so I’ll try to justify men’s behavior a little bit and give you some advice on how to deal with it.
Why do guys slowly fade away? Men “fade out” for these straightforward reasons:
1. It’s less work than just telling you how I feel (for him). He can spare himself the awkward conversation in which he attempts to convey his true feelings for you without offending you too much.
He needs to strike a balance between being too blunt and being ambiguous and doing damage to your ego either way.
2. It’s simpler than just telling you how I feel (for you). Neither you nor he is interested in hearing the unpalatable truth.
If he suddenly calls you up and says, “I don’t think you are perfect enough for me,” the blow to your ego is much greater than if he slowly fades out over time (which is what being dumped amounts to).
3. Assuming you wanted to keep the relationship going would be presumptuous. This is why I think women understand things the least.
Sometimes a man doesn’t want to tell you he wants to stop seeing you because he doesn’t think he has the right to assume that you want to see him again.
There are times when he might think you know something, but he can never be sure. If your interest in him isn’t clear enough, he might not be able to tell you straight out that he wants to stop seeing you.
4. It still gets the point across. Although at first, his silence may seem strange, he is confident that after some time has passed there will be no mistaking his disinterest. By not making a direct phone call, he doesn’t lose clarity in the long run.
Women who have had to dump a guy before will understand what I mean. And it’s not just men who do this; promiscuous people of either gender are more likely to end relationships.
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Signs a Guy Is Doing The Slow Fade
Is it slow fade or overthinking? Let’s look at some signs.
1. He has stopped returning your calls as frequently as before.
When you call, he used to answer every time, but now he might pick up every fourth time. The number seems to be going down. Always, someone will have a “good” explanation: He has a meeting, he has to drive, he has to go to the gym, etc. Evidently, he is not eager to have any sort of conversation with you.
2. He won’t return your phone calls.
Almost never gets back to all those missed calls. As time passes, you become more and more convinced that he will never call you back and therefore stop waiting for him to do so.
3. Texts go hours without being read or replied to.
Darling, he just doesn’t like you that much.
4. He doesn’t propose a meeting.
Once in a while, he doesn’t mind calling to see how things are going. But he’s too busy to grab a drink or a cup of coffee with you, and he’s lost interest in hanging out with you in general.
5. He last-minute cancels.
Every time you try to set up a meeting, something comes up at the last minute and he has to cancel. Yes, he apologizes, but not enough to make things right.
6. He refuses to discuss the situation.
He will act as if nothing is wrong if you bring up the current situation. It’s likely because he doesn’t see any problems. He wants to leave, and it seems like he has decided that leaving slowly is the best way. It works for him, but he doesn’t care if it works for you or not.
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How To Respond To a Slow Fade?
Should I confront the slow fade?
1. Don’t rush into answering his messages right away. Not checking email for a few days is not a big deal. Wait an hour and then send a short, sweet but not mushy text message response.
2. Recognize that it is possible that it is over and start making preparations for moving on.
3. Don’t give him too much information when you answer his email or phone call. Stay away from the usual sharing of trivia with him.
You should pretend to be friends when you respond to him or re-establish contact with him. This is the signal he has been giving you. Treat this message as genuine, because it is.
5. Don’t rush into seeing him again when he asks to. Relax and limit your time spent together.
This one might or might not be for you: Recall all the reasons you were being cagey with HIM when he was crazy about YOU. Possibly the two of you were never meant to be together.
7. Do not take matters with him too seriously. Get over it and continue on. If he’s determined to win your love, there’s nothing to stop him. Putting your own needs first is your number one priority.
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Do Guys Come Back After The Slow Fade
Why do guys come back after disappearing? Or do guys come back after they pull away?
1. He is not interested in anyone else.
Sometimes it seems like the other side has better options, but once you get there, you realize it was all an illusion.
When things get too intimate, some men run away because they don’t want to give up their freedom. Then, once he’s free to date whoever he wants, he may realize that no one else measures up to you.
That’s when he might contact you again, realizing that what he had with you was too good to let go.
2. He is uncertain as to whether or not he has chosen wisely.
Many of us lack a firm picture of what constitutes a happy couplehood. If our parents argued frequently or ran away at the first sign of trouble, it’s likely that we’ll mimic their behavior in our own relationships as grownups.
Why a man always seems to disappear when things get rough may be traced back to his habitual flight from danger. And the same is true for a man who always picks fights.
It is possible that he grew up with unattainable or unhealthy anticipations of relationships since his concept of the ideal relationship is one in which the partners never argue.
Many men who were brought up with this perspective find it easier to simply walk away. But now that the dust has settled and he misses you, he wonders if he made the correct decision. This is what makes him want to come back into your life.
If so, it is unlikely that he is attempting to harm you and more likely that he is genuinely unsure of what to do.
3. He feels bad about what he did and wants to feel better.
If someone breaks your heart, chances are they didn’t intend to. They worry about you and want to make sure you’re doing okay, so they make an effort to be your friend or keep in touch.
In doing so, they leave you with the false hope that the two of you will get back together, which is the worst possible outcome but one they may not have anticipated. Or even worse, bringing up the painful memories you’ve been trying to forget.
4. He’s trying to see how far he can push you.
While he may not intend to test your limits, it’s likely that if your ex-boyfriend keeps breaking up with you and then trying to win you back, he’s just trying to see how far he can push you.
Another example: I have a friend whose boyfriend used to break up with her before major events or long trips, only to ask her out again when he got back.
In this case, the guy isn’t totally to blame. What you expect from others is what you teach them. When you give your ex another chance after he has hurt you repeatedly, you are telling him that you are willing to put up with his bad behavior.
5. He feels bad about ending the relationship.
The truth is that we’re all fallible. When a guy breaks your heart and then returns, it’s possible that he’s having second thoughts about ending things. Forty-three percent of men in the study expressed regret over the decision to end their relationship.
It’s possible the guy just made a rash decision. We can’t prevent it all the time.
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Do Guys Come Back After The Slow Fade by Theresa Alice