What Turn Off a Man – 23 Turn-Offs a Man During Dating
Wondering what turn off a man in a relationship? There are a number of things that men snap off.
These are things that make sure he doesn’t want a relationship with you and maybe even screams at you.
But they will (almost) never tell you what these turn-offs are for men, simply because they don’t dare.
Curious about what these turn-offs are? Then read on.
What Turn Off a Man
Turnoff 1: Women who have no opinion
It is not without reason that I start with this turnoff. This is one of the most unattractive sides that women can have.
I don’t mean that you have to have great political opinions and I don’t mean that you have to have an opinion about everything.
What I do mean I will show you on the basis of an example:
Man: “Gosh, what would you like to do?”
She: “I don’t know …”
Or:
Waiter: “Good evening, could both of you make a choice?”
She: “Uhm, I don’t know, what do you take, honey?”
You understand my point and in fact, there are no women without an opinion. Everyone has an opinion. So use it, you and yourself will enjoy it immensely.
Putting 2: A woman bad “reputation” has
Whether I agree is a different story, but there are many men who fall for a woman with a bad reputation.
Look:
If a man kisses several women while going out, he is a player. But when a woman with several men kissing she is seen as a “slut”.
Do you get it?
I can now give you my unsalted opinion on this, but instead, I’d rather tell you what you can do best about this.
Since many men are short-sighted, I cannot deny that it plays a major role. So make sure you don’t get a bad reputation. You probably know better than me how you do this.
Turnoff 3: Women who only talk about their work
Women often tell me that their careers intimidate men. They think their career scares men.
In reality, it is often something else, namely this:
“Men don’t mind if a woman has a good career, they just don’t like it when a woman just talks about her work.”
Look:
It is good if you are proud of what you do and can talk about it passionately. But when a woman only talks about her work, men fall off.
There is simply more than just you and your career.
In short, it is good if you have a good career and it is good if you can talk about it enthusiastically. As long as it is NOT the only thing you are talking about.
Turnoff 4: A woman who has nothing to say
What I mean by this is:
- A woman who cannot have a nice conversation.
- A woman who reacts curtly to everything a man has to say.
- A woman who never takes the initiative to keep the conversation going.
The moment a woman never has anything to say, then (most) men think that she is boring.
I understand that you might be a bit nervous or that you occasionally don’t feel the click. That doesn’t matter.
But when a woman is very quiet – for fear of saying something wrong – we don’t find her that interesting.
Just to be clear, you don’t have to have a smooth chat like a newspaper vendor. But make sure you have something to say every now and then.
Turnoff 5: A woman trying to make him jealous
You often find this dating advice in magazines and such. It is a thing that many women have been guilty of:
Trying to make him jealous.
Although this seems pretty harmless, it can have disastrous consequences.
The chance that you just slightly go too far with this is pretty big.
Ask yourself:
Right, not nice.
And believe me, he won’t be charmed by it if you flirt with other men in front of him. In fact, he turns to this out of self-protection.
Turnoff 6: Women who gossip (about other women)
I understand that you have an opinion about other women, we men also have our opinion about other men.
That’s okay, it’s just how we work.
But if you gossip about other women, you make a bad (first) impression.
Even if you’re right, just don’t do it.
Turnoff 7: Women with poor hygiene
Most women know that appearance is important for men. But good hygiene is just as important to men.
In general, there are few people who appreciate poor hygiene for obvious reasons.
So it’s important.
There are a number of things that men pay extra attention to (take advantage of this):
- Your body odor, a daily shower is a requirement.
- Fresh breath, brushing your teeth daily and chewing gum are no superfluous luxury.
Turnoff 8: A woman who has too high expectations of him
According to CBS, 38.1% of marriages end in divorce.
Shocking, right?
That is much more than before.
The reason?
Men settle much less quickly with a partner that they don’t like it as much.
For example, many women expect their prince to walk by on the white horse.
Because of these expectations, men will stay away from you. They are afraid, afraid that they cannot meet your expectations. So pay attention to this.
Turnoff 9: Women who constantly talk about their ex
Men hate it when a woman does this. They may not tell you, but it is guaranteed that this scares men.
This creates the impression that you are still in love with your ex.
… And let’s be honest, talking about your ex constantly can only mean two things:
- You are not over it yet.
- You still like him.
Turnoff 10: Women who are constantly negative
Negativity is generally an unattractive trait:
It doesn’t matter if you are male or female. People simply don’t like being around someone who is constantly negative.
By being negative you actually say:
“I don’t like being around because I don’t have a good life.”
Nobody wants to be around negative people.
So if you (often) are negative and constantly complain, stop doing this. As quickly as possible.
Turnoff 11: Women who don’t let him make his own choices
It is important for a man to feel respected. By not letting him make his own choices, he gets the feeling that you do not respect him.
No matter how good your intentions are, this is unattractive for men.
And let’s not forget that he is a mature man who is perfectly capable of making his own choices.
So don’t act like he’s a little kid.
Turn off 12: A woman who gives mixed signals
It’s true that men love a challenge, but there are limits.
A woman who continuously emits mixed signals exceeds this limit.
Because in addition to a challenge, men also want something else:
The feeling that they are in control.
Even though we look so tough from the outside, we are often uncertain from the inside. We just won’t let this happen so quickly.
Sending mixed signals continuously causes (too) much confusion. And there are quite a few men who will break that off. In that case, you are too big a challenge. He gives up.
Turnoff 13: Women who are boring in bed
For a man, there is nothing less attractive in bed than a woman who quietly lays down and lets everything come over her (proverbial then).
In other words, a woman who is passive in bed and does not seem to enjoy it very much.
Even though a man likes you so much, it’s a huge turnoff when you’re in bed:
- No sound.
- Do not take any initiative.
- Do not show that you are enjoying yourself.
From a research even shows that by having a good sex life you are happier through life.
If you take this happiness away from him (by being boring in bed), he will break it.
Turn-off 14: Women who make jokes at his expense
It is difficult to find out for yourself because when you make a small joke at his expense, he will probably laugh about it himself.
But if he laughs about this, it doesn’t mean he likes it. In fact:
He probably pretends he doesn’t mind.
But when a woman in his environment systematically violates his ego, he will automatically lose his appeal to that woman.
It is not that that already happens after one or two jokes
This only happens when you regularly make jokes like this.
Unconsciously he will want to protect his ego and for that he will behave more distantly towards you . This happens without him realizing it.
If this goes on too long, he will eventually leave, to look for a woman who feeds his ego instead of breaking it down.
Turn off 15: A woman who demands all his attention and time
If you are madly in love then you want to spend as much time as possible together. In principle there is nothing wrong with that, he probably experiences exactly the same.
There is a good chance that he will put his friends to one side at the start of the relationship so that he can spend more time with you.
A point comes when he realizes how much he misses his friends
Then you suddenly hear from him that he wants to take it easy.
Well, this is not a reason to panic, research shows that one in four men tells their partner that they want to spend more time with friends. And the number of men who dare not tell this is many times greater.
If you give him some space at such a moment then nothing is wrong.
But don’t you do this? Then he will be able to do quite well.
Turnoff 16: Women who do not pay attention to their appearance
I know it’s superficial, but men like appearance.
Well there is no reason to panic when you don’t look like a model. We mainly look at the time and effort that a woman spends on her appearance.
Now you can think:
“Those stupid and superficial men always too.”
You just have not been helped, men are simply visually oriented. It is part of who we are.
When you arrive every time in sweatpants and an old t-shirt, he will have had enough of this at some point.
Of course it can happen sometime, but make sure you don’t make this a (bad) habit.
Turnoff 17: Women who are male
What I mean by this are women who are “one of the guys” , women who:
- Be gross.
- Have many male friends.
- simply doing what men are doing among themselves.
Although men often appreciate this on a friendly level, it is far from attractive.
Ask yourself:
Turn-down 18: Women who are obsessed with him – and show this continuously
A man loves it when a woman is attracted to him. In this way his ego is stroked, because of this he simply feels like the man.
However, when a woman is obsessed with a man, he will regard this as unattractive.
Some symptoms:
- She wants to be with him constantly.
- She has (almost) no life of her own.
- She gets angry when he doesn’t immediately respond to her message.
At that moment an alarm bell will ring at him. Men want to be able to make free choices, even when they are in a relationship.
So even if you are madly in love with him, keep giving him space.
Turnoff 19: Women who are cold and distant
These are the women who take the whole “hard to get” game a little too seriously.
Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with having a man work for you. We even find this attractive.
But the moment you constantly behave like an ice queen, then it will be enough at some point.
If you always behave cold and distant, he does not know if you like him. If he doesn’t know this, he’ll never want a relationship with you.
He thinks:
“Oh dear. If she is already like this, then I better not enter into a relationship with her. “
In short, there is nothing wrong with playing a bit “hard to get” . But don’t overdo it.
Turn-down 20: Women who don’t let him feel appreciated
According to a survey conducted by YourTango, arguments (within a relationship) arise mainly because one of the partners does not feel valued.
It is therefore important to ensure that he feels appreciated. This will prevent conflicts and he will not get bored with you.
Maybe you now think:
“How can I ensure that he feels appreciated (again)?”
Turnoff 21: Women who take themselves very seriously
I know it might be a bit hypocritical, because I just said that men turn to women who make jokes at his expense.
… And that is absolutely true.
But men also blame women who take themselves too seriously. It is extremely difficult to deal with that as a man.
Because of this he constantly has the idea that everything has to go perfectly. Not really a pleasant idea if you ask me.
Turnoff 22: Women who are desperate
So suppose you ask what you are after four dates, then a man will immediately respond.
This is how he will think:
“There must be something wrong with her, why else would she want a relationship with me so quickly?”
The reason a man thinks this is because a man wants to “hunt” . He doesn’t want you to give in after four dates. He wants to feel that he must conquer you.
If he does not have this feeling, then fun is quickly over for him.
… So even though you may be a little desperate, you should not try to give him that impression.
Turnoff 23: Women who “nag”
Because I coached many men, I made a funny discovery:
All men thought that women moaned too much.
A man sees almost everything a woman wants to change about him or the relationship as a whining.
So if you bring up something you want to change about him, he will see this as a whining.
And this is also a letdown for men.
This does not mean that you cannot change anything about him or the relationship
It means that from now on you have to take a different approach:
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How do you prevent men from turning on you?
Well, first of all by avoiding these 23 things.
But that is not the only thing. There is a way to make a man fall in love with you, read this post about how to become the woman men adore.
What Turn Off a Man by Theresa Alice.