Are you wondering why ‘my boyfriend is acting weird and distant‘? It’s annoying if you have a distant man at home.

Whether this is your boyfriend or someone with whom you got married.

You will wonder:

“My partner takes a distance, what should I do ?!”

I understand that you may be in despair.

That you cannot solve it yourself and have tried everything.

Fortunately, you don’t have to pull your hair out of your head.

Men who are aloof or uninterested do so for very specific reasons.

Sometimes these reasons are so specific that you would literally never come up with it yourself.

It can sometimes be confusing to date a man.

Sometimes you get the advice to take them seriously. Other times you have to take them less seriously.

One reason that you should definitely take seriously is this:

Your partner can be afraid of commitment.

In other words:

Your partner has a fear of commitment

God can only know what the explanation is for this.

When someone is cold and distant, he may have bad experiences from the past that you remind him of. At the same time, there is also the chance that you will not do anything wrong..

Relationships should be fun in theory.

Unfortunately, this is not always the case.

Some relationships are very stifling.

And often this is (unfortunately) because the woman wants to spend more time with the man for all the right reasons.

But your husband or boyfriend sometimes has other ideas about that.

What makes someone cold and distant? If you are thinking why my boyfriend is distant but says nothing is wrong, it is because he also wants “me-time” .

And the more you prohibit him / make this impossible, the more he wants it.

Men do not like to feel that they are being controlled by something or someone.

And it may sound silly, but they certainly do not feel like they are being checked by a woman.

Men remain men.

And the rooster behavior in them will always stay there.

If he is aloof, it may be because of his ego

If you are in a situation where “your boyfriend acting distant but says he loves me“, he may want to show himself that he “doesn’t need you.” Because he can “ handle the world fine”.

This kind of behavior comes and goes with flurries.

He may have seen somewhere in the newspaper or on TV that he wants to be more “assertive and independent” .

Take him as seriously as if you were to take a child who says he wants to become Superman:

You are not going to discourage him.

You are going to support him and tell him it is a good idea.

# 4 Ask him why he is aloof

Billionaire Charlie Munger says you have to ask “Why, why, why?” If you want to be successful in life.

Not once, but several times.

Because often you only end up with the right answer.

The same goes for a man who is uninterested.

When a guy suddenly goes cold on you, sometimes the answer is obvious and sometimes it is because of things that have nothing to do with it.

# 5 He wants to break up

This is not something I hope you will experience.

But it is one that is real.

In many cases, men act aloof or uninterested if they no longer like you.

And if we have made the decision in our head, we will implement it immediately.

You will often notice this by:

The problem is that the damage has often been done.

You can’t do much more.

An option is to ask him why he no longer likes you.

If it is something you can work on, do this before it is REALLY late.

There are several roads that lead to Rome.

And often you can also solve problems in multiple ways.

If he wants more space, you can also use it yourself.

How?

By doing your own thing, you will see each other less often.

He learns to appreciate you because of the distance

And if he really likes you, he will appreciate you more and more because of the distance.

It is literally win-win:

And you will often find that because you doing other things, he becomes jealous in a good way, suddenly becomes less distant, and shows more interest.

Nobody wants a distant man.

But you REALLY don’t want a man who doesn’t like you anymore.

There can be literally hundreds of reasons why a man doesn’t like you (anymore).

You can make him fall in love again, but it is not always easy.

It will surprise you how much effort you made for your partner in the beginning and not anymore.

Nothing in life stays as it is.

It gets better, it gets different or it gets worse.

Diamonds are forever? No, not either.

As soon as you dig up a diamond and place it on a table, it will slowly turn into graphite. Jeweetwel, that stuff that the inside of pencils is made of.

The same applies to your personality

Are you still the diamond he has fallen in love with or have you slowly turned into a piece of graphite?

It is possible that over the years you have developed habits that your husband or boyfriend cannot stand.

And because this has probably happened very slowly and gradually, you do not feel that you are different.

The best thing you can do is ask him the following question:

“Honey, what has changed in me physically and in behavior lately?”

Tell him clearly that you will not be angry with him if he tells the truth.

And don’t get angry if he tells you the truth!

Otherwise, you will teach him that being honest with you causes piss. Because of this, he will lie to you more often in the future if you are not careful.

You may not find it a problem … but he may.

Try to find out what has changed over the years and try to reverse this as much as possible.

You only know what you are missing when you no longer have it.

Like I said at # 6, you take each other for granted if you’ve known each other for a while.

That’s why you have to meet up with your girlfriends to do things. That’s why you have to let him do his thing.

By letting time pass over it, you find out how much you like each other.

It is not strange to occasionally doubt your relationship.

After all, you have to spend your entire life together.

Of course, you will get ups and downs.

And for whatever reason, he may feel the need to distance himself.

It doesn’t even have to be with you. It can also be just him.

In a relationship, you cannot force each other into things.

Then it is no longer a relationship.

Then it’s hell.

And you want to prevent that. You have to want to be together because you want to be together. Not because one of the two partners is forced by the other.

Do you know of those couples who treat each other in a very childish way?

Because he has forgotten her birthday, she will no longer do [fill in activity].

This is something you absolutely don’t want to do if you have a distant man in your life.

It is bad enough that he is aloof or uninterested in you.

So do not use the “eye for an eye, tooth for a tooth” strategy.

Because he does a little less, you shouldn’t suddenly do anything less. Because of this, he has more reason to ignore you even more.

Fair is fair:

Their sex life is very important to men.

If he even feels that it is not enough, he will doubt it.

It may even be that he will look for someone else (and find it) …

Of course, the frequency of sex will decrease as you know someone longer.

But to go from a few times a week to a few times a year is not acceptable for any man.

The reason he distances himself because of his sex life can mean several things:

Women don’t want a man who sits on the couch all day.

But believe me:

Men also do not want a woman who sits on the couch all day.

It is a deal-breaker for both sexes if one does not affect his life.

Therefore, do something with your life.

Give him a reason to be proud of you and to be happy that he has you in his life

Yes, I understand that he should take you as you are.

At least, I understand the statement. Only nothing is true:

You must have the best version of people in your life.

Every person has the potential to build something fun in his life or end up under a bridge as a drug-addicted homeless person.

What can you do?

And they lived happily ever after … right?

In this blog, I have given you various tips on how to make a man less distant.

You have also seen how, for example, you can make your boyfriend more interested in you.

But I don’t do magic. I can’t save a relationship that can’t be saved anymore.

If you arrive early there is hope. If you are late, there is a lot of work to be done.

And even then you do not have the guarantee that your husband or boyfriend will work with you.

Therefore, apply these tips as well as possible if you are wondering what to Do When He Becomes Distant and Cold.

You need all the help to get a man to appreciate you again if he is distant or uninterested.

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