Why controlling impulses is important so that your ex-husband doesn’t forget about you

The answer to whether a man quickly forgets his ex is both yes and no. But soon we will tell you the shocking truth from scientific studies.

Indeed, a man will quickly forget his ex if she tries to reclaim her ex-partner in a wrong and destructive way.

Women who are in a rush tend to stalk their ex with text messages asking for forgiveness and promise it will be “this time different” because “they now understand the mistakes she has made.

A woman who knows how to distance herself often succeeds better at reclaiming her ex. Of course, your ex likes it when you show that you are making an effort in your actions, rather than in what you say, to actually do things differently.

It is therefore important that you first think carefully about the question “why did it go wrong between us”.

Once you know the answer, write it down and try to come up with concrete solutions. A man also likes it when he sees that his ex approaches the situation with a lot of patience. 

The big mistake women make is asking their ex if he still loves her and if he sees any chances that it will work out in the future. Understand that your ex does not always immediately know the answer to such questions.

Because of stress, a man quickly forgets his ex

In any case, make your ex feel good when you approach him after the breakup. If your ex has not contacted you for a long time, it does not necessarily mean that he has forgotten you.

Your ex needs it to get peace and space to reflect on the question ‘what next?’

If you lock yourself up in your house after the break-up, you do nothing, you will show that your ex cannot expect much from you. Enterprising, active women are most likely to reclaim their ex and make sure their ex doesn’t forget about them.

So do not sit down and pamper yourself so that you no longer experience stress.

Stressed women are not attractive. Men do not want pressure, and certainly not stress. The advantage that you are no longer together is that you now have much more time for yourself, to develop yourself and regain your confidence.

Women with a lot of self-confidence usually manage to get their ex back. They also get over their heartbreak faster. It is good to reflect on what should have changed.

Come up with creative solutions for that.

Men love creative women!

Also pay attention to your appearance (clothing, hairstyle, and sports). It is important that your ex gets a positive impression of you, that your ex sees that you are doing well and that you are thinking about the future.

Don’t be afraid your ex will think ‘ok she’s better off now than with me’. It really isn’t. If your ex still has feelings for you, your ex will certainly not soon forget you and think more: if I am not careful my ex will forget me!

Confuse a man and prevent him from forgetting you quickly

The answer to the question “How Do Guys Get Over a Breakup?” also depends on the time you take to reclaim your ex.

First, start with a period of radio silence. This is usually 30 days. Your ex can only ask yourself in this way what you are doing.

Sometimes you make sure you give some information about yourself, and other times you are very elusive.

A man doesn’t easily forget his ex-wife when she ‘forgets’ him

Also, try not to pity your ex. Your ex can’t comfort you and he certainly won’t.

Don’t think you should make the situation difficult so your ex doesn’t forget about you soon.

On the contrary! Your ex will be much more likely to maintain positive contact with you if you are not a threat to him.

How Do Guys Get Over a Breakup?

How men deal with the breakup: the shocking truth from science

Researchers at Binghamton University recently surveyed more than 5,000 people from 96 countries and found that both men and women never quite get over their breakup.

 The study found that men experienced less pain emotionally and physically than women.

You may be shocked when you read this. But keep in mind that this is not to say that men forget their ex more easily.

The reason men experience less physical pain emotionally in a breakup is that women have more to lose from an evolutionary point of view. Craig Morris writes about this in his research:

“From a biological perspective, women have a greater interest in being more selective in the choice of their partner who will protect them during pregnancy and just after birth. After all, women are pregnant for 9 months and need a good partner if they have childbirth and want to breastfeed ”

So the woman looks more in the longer term. A breakup feels much more difficult for her when she is left alone to raise her children.

But men can also feel quite sad after the breakup. However, men express themselves in a different way.

Morris writes about this:

“Men usually express feelings of anger more often. They are also more prone to self-destructive behaviors than women. Compared to men, women often display somewhat more depressed behavior, and seek support from their social circle for this. Women are always looking for constructive solutions because they want to do everything they can to maintain the relationship.

Consider, for example, over-analyzing the relationship.

Men have a greater interest in protecting their image and self-esteem, and will, therefore, make every effort to safeguard it. They’d rather forget their ex than reflect on how things could be done differently. ”

For most men, this type of self-reflection is simply not on the menu. According to Dr. Scott Carol, a relationship expert and psychiatrist at the University of New Mexico takes men a different approach to dealing with their feelings:

“Men tend to suppress their grief and display a ‘fake it until you make it’ behavior”

Some men make up for grief by dating a lot … but when it comes down to it, they are terrified of intimacy and flee as soon as the woman wants more. Or they party with their friends to drown their sorrows.

How men bond and detach from love relationships

Do men break up their relationships faster than women?

No. Men generally take longer to tie the knot if they are unhappy in their relationship.

According to Carol, it could take years, sometimes decades, if they really loved their ex. They often don’t want to acknowledge or show their grief to others ” 

Because many men have never learned how to handle their emotions correctly, they don’t know what to do when they come on suddenly.

“The tricky part is that men are usually brought up to hide their feelings. The worse the pain is, the stronger the urge to forget it,” says Carol.

Josh Klapow, a radio host and clinical psychologist at the University of Alabama, believes that this lack of emotional development hinders relationships in other ways. This attitude makes men see relationships more as “achievements” rather than meaningful partnerships.

As a result, he says: 

“While they may mourn the loss of the relationship, it is more a failure than the loss of a person.” 

Their detachment also helps men to “enter into a relationship with another woman more quickly.” And apparently, this vicious cycle repeats itself over and over.

When a man enters into a relationship with a woman, his testosterone level falls and increases the level of oxytocin (happiness hormone), which makes it susceptible to adhesion.

But once he decides to leave the relationship, his testosterone levels go up again and oxytocin levels drop: he literally stops feeling the love. 

 How Do Guys Get Over a Breakup? by Theresa Alice