For each question, choose the answer that best describes your feelings or behaviors in romantic relationships. Be honest with yourself, and remember that there are no right or wrong answers.

When my partner is away, I:
a. Feel secure and confident in our relationship.
b. Worry that they might not return or lose interest in me.
c. Prefer to focus on my independence and personal interests.
d. Feel a mix of security and worry, depending on the situation.

In relationships, I tend to:
a. Trust my partner and feel comfortable discussing my feelings.
b. Seek reassurance and validation from my partner.
c. Struggle with emotional intimacy and avoid discussing my feelings.
d. Experience a combination of trust and emotional avoidance.

When my partner needs space, I:
a. Respect their needs and maintain a sense of security in our relationship.
b. Feel anxious and fear they might leave me.
c. Appreciate the opportunity to focus on myself and my interests.
d. Experience both appreciation and anxiety, depending on the situation.

I often worry about:
a. Not much; I feel secure and confident in my relationships.
b. My partner leaving me or not loving me enough.
c. Getting too close or emotionally dependent on my partner.
d. A mix of abandonment fears and concerns about losing my independence.

When discussing problems in a relationship, I:
a. Feel comfortable expressing my thoughts and feelings.
b. Tend to get emotional and seek reassurance from my partner.
c. Avoid discussing my feelings and focus on solutions.
d. Alternate between emotional expression and avoidance.

In my relationships, I often feel:
a. Secure and emotionally connected.
b. Anxious and insecure.
c. Emotionally distant and independent.
d. A combination of secure and distant, depending on the situation.

My ideal partner would:
a. Provide a balance of emotional support and independence.
b. Constantly reassure me of their love and commitment.
c. Give me plenty of space and do not demand emotional intimacy.
d. Adapt to my changing emotional needs and preferences.

When my partner is upset, I:
a. Offer emotional support and understanding.
b. Feel anxious and try to fix the problem immediately.
c. Struggle to empathize and prefer to focus on practical solutions.
d. Vary my response depending on the situation and my emotional state.

I prefer relationships that are:
a. Stable, emotionally connected, and supportive.
b. Intense, passionate, and constantly reassuring.
c. Independent, with minimal emotional demands.
d. A mix of stability and independence, with occasional emotional intensity.

When it comes to emotional intimacy, I:
a. Feel comfortable and enjoy deep emotional connections.
b. Crave emotional closeness but fear rejection or abandonment.
c. Avoid emotional vulnerability and prioritize my independence.
d. Experience varying degrees of comfort with emotional intimacy.

When I think about past relationships, I often feel:
a. Grateful for the growth and learning experiences they provided.
b. Anxious about the possibility of being abandoned or rejected again.
c. Relieved to have maintained my independence and emotional distance.
d. A mix of gratitude and anxiety, depending on the specific relationship.

In times of conflict, I:
a. Address the issue openly and work together with my partner to find a resolution.
b. Feel overwhelmed and seek reassurance from my partner.
c. Withdraw and avoid discussing my emotions.
d. Alternate between open communication and emotional withdrawal.

My friends would describe my relationship style as:
a. Secure and emotionally connected.
b. Anxious and needy.
c. Independent and emotionally distant.
d. A mix of secure and distant, depending on the situation.

When my partner does something that upsets me, I:
a. Express my feelings and discuss the issue calmly.
b. Worry about the stability of our relationship and seek reassurance.
c. Suppress my emotions and avoid confrontation.
d. React with a combination of emotional expression and avoidance.

My primary relationship goal is:
a. To build a secure, emotionally connected partnership.
b. To constantly feel reassured and secure in my partner’s love.
c. To maintain my independence and avoid emotional dependence.
d. To strike a balance between emotional connection and independence.

In relationships, I find it difficult to:
a. Not much; I feel comfortable with both emotional intimacy and independence.
b. Trust that my partner will not abandon or reject me.
c. Let down my guard and share my emotions with my partner.
d. Navigate between my desires for emotional connection and independence.

When my partner shares their feelings with me, I:
a. Listen empathetically and offer emotional support.
b. Feel reassured by their vulnerability and seek further validation.
c. Feel uncomfortable and try to change the subject.
d. Respond empathetically, but also feel a sense of discomfort.

My greatest relationship fear is:
a. I don’t have a specific fear; I feel secure in my relationships.
b. Abandonment or rejection.
c. Emotional dependence or loss of independence.
d. A mix of abandonment and dependence fears.

In relationships, I value:
a. Emotional connection, trust, and support.
b. Constant reassurance and validation.
c. Personal freedom and minimal emotional demands.
d. A balance between emotional connection and personal freedom.

I believe that a successful relationship requires:
a. Mutual trust, support, and emotional connection.
b. Constant reassurance and validation from my partner.
c. A strong emphasis on personal independence and space.
d. Flexibility in navigating between emotional intimacy and independence.

Results:

After answering all the questions, calculate your total score.

a. (1 point)
b. (3 points)
c. (2 points)
d. (4 points

Your dominant attachment style is determined by your total score range:

• If your total score is between 20-34, you likely have a secure attachment style.
• If your total score is between 35-49, you may have a mixed attachment style, with elements of both secure and insecure attachment patterns.
• If your total score is between 50-64, you likely have an avoidant attachment style.
• If your total score is between 65-80, you likely have an anxious attachment style.