Do I Still Love My Ex?

Are you asking: “Do I still love my ex?” The moment your relationship ends, it seems as if the world is standing still for a moment.

The first few weeks after the relationship breakup you probably feel lifeless and you are not in the mood for anything. Nevertheless, a relationship breakdown is not always the definitive end of a relationship. A lot of relationships are “repaired” because couples after they break the relationship, come together again.

However, if the relationship breakdown has been around for some time and you still often have to think about your ex, this may be a sign that you still have strong feelings for your ex and maybe even fall in love with your ex.

In this article, 7 signals are described that could indicate that you are still in love with your ex. Do you still like your ex? Read on quickly!

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Awareness is the basis
Signal that you still like your ex # 1: You still think about your ex (almost) daily
Signal that you still like your ex # 2: You continue to follow your ex on social media
Signal that you still like your ex # 3: You do not open yourself to other relationships
Signal that you still like your ex # 4: All potential partners are still being compared to your ex
Signal that you still like your ex # 5: You still talk a lot about your ex
Signal that you still like your ex # 6: Your ex regularly pops up in your dreams
Signal that you still like your ex # 7: You keep contacting your ex

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In this article 7 signals are described that may indicate that you still have strong feelings for your ex. The same applies to all the tips I give in this article.

It is only effective if you are actually aware of the fact that you may still like your ex. You must first acquire that insight, you must first accept that before you can act on it.

Signal that you still love your ex # 1: You still think about your ex (almost) daily

The first signal from which you can deduce that you are probably still in love with your ex is perhaps the most obvious: you often think of your ex. In this case, often is meant daily or almost daily. People tend to cling to the past enormously; in this case your ex.

Maybe you know it, people who constantly claim that everything used to be better. That has not so much to do with whether it used to be better in the past, but with the perception of the past.

People often think back to moments that they have experienced as blissful. In addition, of course, it applies to older people that who used to be a lot more vital in the past.

The danger of staying too much in the past is that you get too rosy a picture of the past. This can go very far: so far that the present can really only be disappointing. It is important to realize that the past is something that will never come back.

If you realize this, it will also be a bit easier to think less about your ex.

In other words, the fact that you often think of your ex does not mean that you are also in love with your ex by definition. It can therefore also be due to feelings of nostalgia and the desire for confirmation.

After all, your ex was someone who, before the relationship ended, gave you a lot of confidence and told you that you were great.

Are you aware of the above, but do you still think a lot about your ex? Then it could indicate that you still really like your ex. If this is the case, you can look at options to possibly reclaim your ex.

Signal that you still love your ex # 2: You continue to follow your ex on social media

If you spend a lot of time on Facebook, Instagram, or Snapchat, there is a good chance that an occasional message from your ex will appear in your newsfeed.

You have been intensively together with your ex for a (large) part of your life. So it is only logical that you secretly wonder how your ex goes after you split up.

But where is the line between interest and falling in love?

If you look once a month at the personal page of your ex, then there is probably nothing wrong. However, if you look at your ex’s page much more often, you have to ask yourself if this is not because you still like your ex.

Another option is of course that you give your ex the best and just want to know how your ex is doing. Some are even so open-minded that they are happy for their ex when they become happy again in a new relationship, but for the vast majority, this is still a step too far.

Signal that you still love your ex # 3: You do not open yourself to other relationships

The previous signal that I described is problematic but does not put you in uncomfortable situations. That is different from this signal.

If you do not open yourself to other relationships after leaving your relationship, you may still like your ex. However, there are also a number of other reasons that you do not open up:

You have so much sadness about your broken relationship that you don’t want to think about other relationships at all.

You have decided to take some time for yourself and to focus on other things. These may have received less attention when you were still in a relationship.

Your trust has been abused and you find it difficult to get new people close in the short term.

If the above three things do not apply to you, then I dare to make the following diagnosis. You are still in love with your ex.

This may be because, for example, you have not really closed the relationship in your head. Or you are still unknowingly brooding on a plan to reclaim your ex.

It is therefore not necessarily bad that you are not open to other relationships. It is only problematic if you do not understand the reason for this. As long as you are aware of any mental blockages or considerations that are preventing a new relationship, I would not worry.

Signal that you still love your ex # 4: All potential partners are still being compared to your ex

One of the clearest signs that you still like your ex is if you keep comparing all potential partners and nice people you meet with your ex. It is not surprising that the people you fall into have some characteristics in common with your ex.

Your ex was nice for a reason.

However, if this turns into a closed attitude towards the rest, then there is work to be done.

Allow yourself the chance to fall in love again. Don’t shut yourself off from all the beautiful things that come your way. It is good to look further than your nose is long.

This has a number of advantages:

• You give others who care a lot about you the chance to show you this too.
• Love often comes from an unexpected corner.

If you choose a new partner that looks like your ex, then you will continue to compare that partner very often with your ex. Believe me, that is not fun at all for anyone and unfair to your new relationship.

Signal that you still love your ex # 5: You still talk a lot about your ex

When you and your ex were still together, you still played a major role in each other’s lives. Because of this the person probably also often came up when you were with friends.

However, if you still catch yourself talking a lot about your ex, then an alarm bell should ring.

Talking about your ex is, and may not even call your ex, but my friend is a matter of getting used to in the first month after the relationship has ended.

Nobody will blame you for those discussions and topics. However, do you still talk a lot about your ex after a month? Then you have to ask yourself if you are not secretly in love with your ex.

If you have trouble not talking about your ex, ask your friends for help. They can correct you if you talk too much about your ex again.

In addition to the fact that it is an indication that you are still in love with your ex, it can also have consequences for your social life. If you talk too much about your ex:

• Your friends will be fed up at some point
• Is this a real letdown for potential new partners
• Maybe people will get the idea that you are very emotionally confused with yourself
• Signal that you still like your ex # 6: Your ex regularly pops up in your dreams

The sixth signal that you still love your ex has to do with your subconscious mind.

Because if your ex regularly pops up in your dreams, this may mean that you still like your ex. It is very important to handle this wisely.

Dreams can have a big impact on how you feel during the day.

Because dreams come from your subconscious mind, dreaming about your ex is really a sign that you are not over your ex yet. Although I wish everyone nice dreams, it seems very wise to ask yourself seriously what could possibly explain the dreams.

Signal that you still love your ex # 7: You keep contacting your ex

The last (and most clear) signal that you still really like your ex is of course that you keep contacting your ex again and again. This has to do with the fact that people are always looking for love, affection, and confirmation.

Because your ex is someone with whom you have found this in the past, you now seek your salvation there.

If you are really in love with your ex, then, of course, there is nothing against contact. Everyone should get the chance to put on the bad shoes and fully focus on finding love.

But here too the magic word is awareness again. Only if you are aware of your feelings will you also be able to keep in contact with you effectively and with pleasure.

Finally, I would like to point out that when you contact your ex, you also have to take your ex’s feelings into account. How did the relationship end? Are there any open wounds or unspoken arguments? Consult yourself and think carefully before you decide whether you will contact your ex again.

Do you still want to keep in touch? Then see here how you can talk to your ex via WhatsApp.

If after reading this article you have the feeling that you are not over your ex, but would really like to be?

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Discover the psychological triggers to quickly reclaim your ex